Start with the doctor
New or worsening incontinence should always be checked. Infections, medications, constipation, and other treatable causes are common. Do not assume it is permanent.
What helps at home
- A regular bathroom schedule, every two to three hours, and before bed.
- A clear, lit path to the bathroom, a raised toilet seat, and a bedside commode.
- Good quality briefs and bed protection, and clothing that is easy to remove.
- Protecting skin with prompt changes and barrier cream.
When it is more than a family can do
Nighttime changes, lifting, and laundry every day wear caregivers down quickly, especially a spouse. Caregivers in board and care homes help with toileting and changes as part of daily care, with the privacy and dignity it deserves. When you talk with a home, ask how often residents are checked at night and how they manage skin care.
Reviewed October 2, 2026. General information, not medical or legal advice. Talk with your loved one's doctor about their health.